The first 3-4 years of children's lives, although gradually decreasing number of sleep every day, if we think, it is actually important to understand the daytime sleep and maintain the order.
But what I see is that this is not a need for parents, but a stress factor. For this reason, I think it would be beneficial to share some basics that will meet the needs of babies and comfort the parents.
- Where's the problem?
The biggest pressure of daytime sleepings on the parent is that these times are the only break areas. Especially when these tired, single-minded parents are the only resting area, we can better understand the rush to put him to sleep, the stress during sleeping, and the anxiety he feels if the baby does not sleep or sleep short.
If you are familiar with this table, see if your problem is your baby's sleep, or if this is a help call and you need to expand your help network and get support.
One of the fundamentals of quality and good daytime sleep is quality wakefulness. A wakefulness that meets the physical and emotional needs and passes with pleasure and the main value balance of the nervous system, summarize yourself "good" it's so precious to feel.
Games that are parallel to the development of the baby, open-air, movement, discovery, joy, and of course the moments passing with compassion and confidence in the natural flow of life support the baby's life to the fullest.
Of course, in these moments, the parents sometimes give full attention, sometimes they provide space for their own needs, and in an “autopilot”, that is, they can actually take care of their baby (talking on the phone, cooking…), sometimes not (going out, bathing). The important thing is to balance them.
- Signal Capture
I know that you come across many tables and numbers about how much daytime sleep should be. They are very confusing.
But you have a great compass, baby. It's her feeling, recognizing her body, and that's what she already has. Anlama self-understanding ” By supporting his / her skill you will be of great help to him.
Feeling hunger, satiety, fatigue and chills, our children's feeling and the need to express himself to meet this need (signal) is valuable.
Confidence is formed by the answers to these signals. The first signs that sleep is coming, such as light rinsing, looking empty, slowing down, redness around the eyes, sluggishness, and especially in infants with increased movement uncontrolled mobility can.
These initial signals follow the movements such as scratching the eye, playing with the hair with the ear. Then we start to see yawning and restlessness. In this process, if the baby gave signs of fatigue but was not seen, that is, if we are delayed, nervous system rise, stress increase It starts.
This delay may also result in difficult diving, as a calm nervous system will be required before diving again.
Therefore, it is an important issue to catch early sleep signals, to see the baby to keep calm / reduce the stimulus to calm down, to pass with a calm game, calm relationship, tone, gentle touches With her is to prepare slowly towards the sleep process.
- Preparation for Sleep
In the transition to sleep, parents in do more ından than “how they do ir calms the babies and prepares them for sleep. The transition to the sleeping room with a positive state, a little sleep in the environment, harmonize with the calm activity, diminishing stimulus (dim environment, calm sound tone, if you wish, accompanied by the sounds of nature, such as external sudden noises) and whatever we do, stay at that moment, maintaining eye-sound-skin contact relaxes the baby.
For quality sleep, the most important step before plunge is the ”calming” phase, which means that the baby's nervous system is balanced and regulated. This can happen only with the support and compassion of the parent, because the infant nervous system does not yet have the self-improvement.
The intervention here is the parent we are in at that moment, the state we are in at that moment. The baby takes all our non-verbal language messages and wants a relationship in order to feel safe and balanced in the process.
Daytime sleep is lighter than nighttime sleep. Some babies may also find it more difficult than the night. Usually babies or by night sleep they may also want to dive with more intense contact. For example, a baby who plunges in his bed at night can progress by diving for a while during the day.
The level of support in the form of plunge is not present in every baby, but in some babies at night. frequent waking and daytime caused by short daytime sleepiness we know.
If you are still experiencing very short, unhappy awakened (actually divided), poor quality, and unresponsive daytime sleeps after giving all the other support, it will help you to gradually change your way of diving by spreading it along the way and by your baby.
Sleep regularly means that the baby starts the day at about the same time, closes the day at about the same time and goes to sleep at night, and the awakening period between sleeps is about the same time. As the babies grow, their waking time increases, they sleep during the day sleep counts and night sleep times also decreases.
Remembering that this order is an internal order, the baby should feel and tell his / her own body signals, and the parent must provide the sleeping environment and support the transition to sleep by seeing that timing.
Babies usually stay awake for 1-1.5 hours and sleep for 4-5 day after the first month of sleep, usually 5-6 months 2-2.5 hours to stay awake to 3 sleep.
They then awaken for 3-4 hours and usually fall asleep between 7-9 months. When the quality awakening period increases to 5-6 hours, which usually corresponds to 12-18 months, they will go into single sleep.
- Sleep Time
In the first months of life, a sleep cycle that the baby needs to take to rest is an average of 45 minutes, which extends to 2-2.5 years of age. Up to 90 minutesreaches the adult sleep cycle time.
Babies can sleep for a cycle during the day and wake up happy and rested, or sometimes this is not enough for them, but their sleep may be interrupted (not because there is a problem, they are infants) and they need to be re-anesthetized. Even especially in the first 6 months or during multiple sleep times before going to a single sleep, it is usually the last sleep, but some sleep may remain short of a nap.
Sleeping for 20-30 minutes can be seen as a short daytime sleep and can be seen as a problem while those who are in a balanced way can be accepted in normal baby sleep. To see if there is a problem, you should look at this: How does my baby wake up? Calm and happy? In addition, is he able to comfortably wake up to normal? So the parent understands the rhythm, limits of their baby's sleep and help the baby to maintain it.
- Sleep Outside
It is very valuable to open up life outside the home environment, to live to the fullest, for the continuation of social life, the abundance of the baby for both regulation and development.
Therefore, it is important for the baby to have some daytime sleeps in different environments from the first days in terms of sleeping environment and having different options in the baby's repertoire during the transition to sleep.
Sling, strollers, friends in the back room in the car, in the car seat in the early months of life, which integrates the parents themselves, as well as babies can spend much more flexible and comfortable time.
The important issue is that the parent who discovers that the baby sleeps better here does not use it as a routine method of sleeping. Because these methods are not sustainable in continuous application, but also in some babies transition to a regulated sleep or does not provide a comfortable sleeping environment.
- Stopping Daytime Sleep
The age of quitting daytime sleep is generally between 3-4 years, but we rarely see children sleeping early or later.
The signals are:
You will not see any signs of sleep in your child, and sleep periods begin to shorten, and most importantly, he can spend the day relaxed, peaceful and balanced until he goes to sleep at night.
If you see the first two signals but your child is not yet able to complete the day, it is difficult to dive, but he still needs sleep.
Typically these problems 2 years and after seeing we can start, because at this age the child becomes thoroughly autonomous and the subject is actually set limits It is difficult to take a break from the game and to go to this sleeping experience in the middle of the day, which is actually quite boring for many children. Protecting their needs and putting a border with compassion is valuable at this stage.
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