You decided to be a parent. Maybe even a young parent. Do you have any questions about the development of your baby? If your answer is “yes” Psychologist Sinem Olcay from Istanbul Parenting Class You should read this interview with. You will find answers to your questions
: You have started training programs in Turkey for the first time parents. Why is parent education important?
Psychologist Sinem Olcay: As we all know, we cannot think of human development independently of the family. All of our development occurs in a certain context and as a result of the mutual interaction we enter with many variables. The most important variable that determines the development in early childhood is of course parental behavior. In recent years we hear from all sources that experiences between 0-6 years have a very important place in human life. Our ability to cope with life-long situations is laid at an early age. Socially, emotionally and mentally oriented and supported individuals between the ages of 0-6 are happier and more successful in the future. Therefore, it is very important to educate parents about development-supporting parenting.
Parenting is actually an instinct. We instinctively assume the role of caring for, protecting, and educating our child, but when our child comes to the world, we see that our instinctive tendencies towards child rearing are not enough. In order to meet the developmental needs of our child correctly, we need to learn many new things and acquire new skills. Parenting trainings give you the skills to raise children and teach you the healthiest approach to child development.
Parents' education abroad is very common especially in developed countries such as America, European countries and Australia. Parents begin to participate in these trainings during their pregnancy and continue throughout the development of their children. In our country, we can see that parent education becomes a necessity if we consider the lack of information about the developmental needs of children, the intensity of the business life of the parents, the generation conflict with the grandparents, and the fact that the caregivers come from low educational levels.
: What are the basic developmental stages in which children go through 0-1 years of age?
Psychologist Sinem Olcay: We can divide the development of children from infancy into socio-emotional and mental development. The most important socio-emotional developmental stages of infancy are to establish a healthy bond of trust with the parent, to begin to feel that it is valuable and important, to perceive the world as a safe and nurturing place, and to learn to control his emotions, ie to calm himself. The most important stages of mental development in infancy are the understanding that the baby has an impact on the environment, acquiring the skills that are the basis of communication such as waiting and responding, and the ability to reinforce the innate discovery and learning tendency by looking at objects, touching and taking them in his mouth.
The socio-emotional and mental development of the baby during the first year is actually self-control. In other words, the baby needs to gain the ability to self-regulate behaviors such as biologically based eating, sleeping, waking up, moving and responding to the stimulus. This is the most basic development stage of the first year.
: What does development-supporting parenting mean? How to become a supportive parent?
Psychologist Sinem Olcay: Parenthood supporting development; Basically, we understand the socio-emotional and mental development needs of the child and prioritize these developmental needs in the parent-child relationship and give stimulation, education and discipline to our child in accordance with their personal characteristics, desires and needs.
Supporting development is a general concept that applies to all age groups. But as the developmental needs of children change with age, the content of development-supporting parenting differs for children of different age groups.
Let me explain a little about what development-supportive parenting means in infancy. Sensitivity lies at the basis of development-supporting parents during infancy. In this period, parental sensitivity; it means that the parent is able to adjust his / her own behavior to the baby in a warm, caring and warm way and adjust his / her own movement speed to that of the baby. In addition, parents' ability to respond to the baby at the right time is also very important for development. So the parent should be able to respond to the baby immediately by following the cues given by the baby. Encouragement is another indicator of parenthood that supports development during infancy. Encouraging parents support the baby's efforts to acquire any object or discover a toy, praising the baby's determination. In addition, if you want to be a supportive parent, you should take care not to restrict the baby's exploration attempts. That is, you should not interfere with the baby's attempts to discover and express objects in the environment, but rather encourage them.
: What should we do to support our baby's intelligence development?
Psychologist Sinem Olcay: The development of intelligence during early childhood mainly depends on the child's encounter with different learning experiences. The learning experience for babies is about giving them different images, sounds, textures, objects and movements. You can give your baby the best learning experience by playing in one-to-one interaction with it. However, you should not consider playing games as offering dozens of toys to the baby. If you are going to play with your baby through toys, be sure to introduce a single toy at a time. Considering the baby's limited attention capacity, this approach allows your baby to have a more effective learning experience.
Babies have a motivation to explore the world around them, and everything you do actually warns them. When you talk to him, your voice, light, colors and movements, chandelier in the bedroom, sunlight or wind entering the room, objects he sees on the shelves when you go to the market all contribute to your baby's intelligence development.
Nevertheless, one-to-one, face-to-face play is very important to support your baby's intelligence development and should be part of daily activities. Some of us think that there is no real dialogue with the baby before babies start walking and talking. The first 6 months of life, however, are one of the most open to socialization in a child's life. In the first months, babies are more interested in faces than toys, and from 3 months onwards, you can have great conversations with your baby using sounds, words, facial expressions and various gestures. Unfortunately, most parents miss the opportunity to interact face-to-face in the first year. Thus, the baby is deprived of this important experience necessary for early brain development. Your baby will enjoy you interacting with her in joy and talking to her more than playing with a toy alone.
: Would it pamper the baby?
Psychologist Sinem Olcay: New mothers receive many warnings that they are spoiling their babies. Even if others don't say so, a mother may be worried about whether I'm spoiling my baby because she's holding her baby every time she cries or shakes her to sleep.
However, the care and love of a baby certainly does not spoil. In addition, any behavior or habit that has occurred can be changed if necessary as the baby grows. Babies need to bond. Especially in the first months, they should receive a consistent and loving response to their crying. Never stop yourself if it's about showing love to your baby. Every touch, every attempt to soothe, every nourishment, every shake, every kiss, every attention and attention to your baby teaches him that the world he has just met is a loving, nourishing, good place. By doing so, you help your baby to internalize that contact with people is a comforting and good-looking situation.